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Men's reluctance to discuss their problems can be infuriating for their chattier wives and girlfriends, the Daily Mail reported.

And the habit, it seems, starts in childhood.

A study claims that most men, rather than being too inhibited to share their feelings, simply do not see the point of airing their woes.

According to researchers, while girls believe talking endlessly about their problems will make them feel better, boys think it is a waste of time and say the strategy is "weird."

The U.S. team said the opposing attitudes are likely to explain the stand-offs that occur in later relationships.

Amanda Rose of the University of Missouri said: "Women may really push their partners to share pent-up worries and concerns because they hold expectations that talking makes people feel better. But their partners may just not be interested and expect that other coping mechanisms will make them feel better. Men may be more likely to think talking about problems will make the problems feel bigger, and engaging in different activities will take their minds off the problem." （点击《每日邮报》查看原文）

男可忍 女不可忍

       据英国《每日邮报》报道，男人遇到麻烦，总是不喜欢与自己的女朋友或妻子讨论一下，而这往往会使他们的另一半很愤怒。

       而这种习惯，似乎是始于男人的童年。

       一项研究表明，大部分男人并不是不能与妻子分享自己的感受，只是觉得没必要讨论这些问题。

       研究者称，如果说女孩喜欢滔滔不绝地说自己遇到的问题是因为这样能使她们感到轻松的话，男孩们觉得这是浪费时间，而且这种方式解压非常“怪异”。

       研究这一问题的美国团队称，两性这种对待问题的不同态度有可能解释长大后两性关系中男女的不同立场。

       密苏里大学的阿曼达·罗斯博士说：“女人们喜欢敦促她的另一半与她分享压抑的担心和烦恼，因为她们认为说出来感觉会好很多。但男人们可能就不感兴趣，认为有其它更好的解决方式。男人们甚至认为把问题拿出来说会使问题越变越复杂，并且多说会影响他们的思考。”

(China.org.cn August 25, 2011)