More than half Shanghai's children aged three and under are
cared for by their grandparents, which often leads to problems
later in life, a survey has claimed.
The Shanghai population and family planning committee conducted
the survey in 34 Shanghai communities and found that 53 percent of
all children aged up to three were looked after mainly by
grandparents. And nearly 70 percent of the families showed
dissatisfaction with this way of bringing up their children.
More than three-quarters of the parents surveyed also lived with
their grandparents, and nearly 90 percent of the grandparents were
involved in some way with childcare.
Just 43 percent of young children are cared for by their
parents.
Professor Wang Shixiong, a pediatrician at the Xinhua Hospital,
told China Daily: "When a child is born, its brain is
about 25 percent developed, by age three the figure is 60 percent,
and at age five almost 90 percent.
"Parents should be their baby's first teachers, and be there to
cherish the key stages of the child's development.
"It is most important to give the child all kinds of early
experiences, encouraging them to use their senses, to see, hear,
touch and communicate."
But few grandparents are aware of these things, the survey
said.
Instead, they tend to make lots of rules that limit the child's
movements. This nurtures weaknesses such as overdependency and
timidity.
Most grandparents also believe in traditional wisdom and
experience rather than new theories on childcare.
"Grandparents tend to believe it is important the babies are
well fed and warmly dressed, but they don't pay enough attention to
their emotional world," Jane Tian, the mother of a five-year-old
boy, said.
"My mother used to turn on the TV while feeding the baby," she
told China Daily. "When his attention was focused on the
screen, it was easier to make him eat."
Tian found that many children, like her son, showed a lack of
interest in food or simply did not know how to eat on their own
when they went to kindergarten.
In addition, many elderly people speak dialects rather than
standard Chinese. Children brought up hearing a mixture of dialects
and standard Chinese showed difficulty with their own language
building, the survey said.
Experts with the Shanghai population and family planning
committee found that children raised by grandparents also had
difficulties with learning and adjusting to their environment,
suffered psychological and personality problems and showed a lack
of independence.
Eighty-three percent of those surveyed said they thought both
grandparents and mothers should receive training on modern
childcare theory, and 3.7 percent said nannies should be trained as
well.
"The best people to care for babies are the parents," Wang said.
But this is not always practical in modern urban China, he
said.
"We live with a lot of pressure nowadays. There is the house,
the car ... you simply can't afford to raise a child on one
parent's income," Xia Weihang, the mother of a two-year-old boy,
said.
"There are good parts and bad parts of having the baby raised by
its grandparents," Tian said.
"But it's better than leaving the child with a nanny."
(China Daily July 13, 2007)