Mrs. Wang, 65, recently traveled along distance from east China's
Jiangxi Province to marry her Mr. Right.
Wang's new husband, surnamed Chen, is a senior engineer in Tianjin,
the leading port city in north China.
Wang had thought of finding a life partner ever since her husband
died decades ago. The desire became stronger when her son emigrated
to the United States. Though Wang was introduced to several male
partners, she was satisfied with none. After some time, the elderly
lady found her Mr. Right.
"I
married Chen because we have a good understanding with each other,
which ignites my love again," Wang said.
So
Wang made up her mind to leave her hometown, where she had lived
for most of her life, and to settle in a strange northern city with
the man she loved. Soon after the marriage, the couple moved to a
home for the aged to spend their remaining years together
there.
Many other Chinese widows share a similar experience.
According to the latest statistics of the fifth national census,
129 million Chinese, or 10.46 percent of the country's total
population, are aged 60 or above. The figure is expected to climb
to 400 million during the first half of the 21st century.
Of
that total, there are now about 45 million widows or widowers. With
the average life expectancy climbing to 71.4, many of them have the
desire to marry again. And they have new criteria in choosing a
life partner in the wake of social progress.
Like people of the younger generation, they regard love, sexual
harmony and mutual understanding as the most important factors in
choosing life partners, breaking away from the traditional trend
that values personal looks, money and social status. "More and more
would-be senior lovers give much consideration to sincere
sentiments rather than economic factors when their living standard
has improved," said Hao Maishou, a professor with the Tianjin
Academy of Social Sciences.
"Some widowers prefer to marry much younger women. The maximum age
gap between the husband and wife is about 40 years," said Sun, a
staff at a matrimonial agency.
"So long as they love each other, we would like to act as the
go-between for them," she added.
"Such marriage suggests in some way that senior people begin to set
great store by their sexual life," said Shi Chengli, a Chinese sex
expert. "It is common for men to still have strong sexual desire at
the age of 70. But women often suffer from ovarian degeneration.
The spring-winter marriage is able to offset the physiological
difference between men and women."
A
sample survey showed the age gap of remarried elderly partners is
11 years on average. With this gap, most have a harmonious sexual
life.
However, extramarital affairs also constitute a common problem
among senior partners. A recent survey in Tainjin showed as high as
70 percent of senior partners felt the ardent passion and love
between them become dim after they remarried again, making the
divorce rate among remarried people increase.
A
64-year-old engineer met a 40-year partner at a ballroom and
married her after retirement. Later, the engineer began to find
faults with his wife and even beat her. Heart-broken, she finally
decided to divorce him.
Some senior citizens would like to maintain their friendship with
people of the opposite sex rather than register for marriage, even
though they live together and enjoy sexual life. But they keep
their assets separated.
Such relationship is neither advocated nor protected by law, said
Hao Maishou.
(Xinhua News Agency February 10, 2003)